Fortunately, we live in a time when no one should ever have to suffer alone nor in silence. If you are going through a difficult period, I hope you will take a look at this page to see if there is something here that might help you. If you are looking for something you can’t find here, please feel free to give me a call at (503) 450-9902 for any additional resources or referrals.


24 Hour Emergency & Support Phone Numbers

If you are feeling like you need to talk to someone immediately or may harm yourself in any way, please consider going to your nearest hospital’s Emergency Room, and/or to call one of the following:

  • 911
  • Multnomah County Crisis Line — 503-988-4888
  • Portland Women’s Crisis Line — 888-235-4888
  • Washington County Crisis Line — 503-291-9111

Books that might be helpful


 "The purpose of a book is to serve as an axe for the frozen sea within us."    — Annie Dillard



Living, Loving, & LearningLeo Buscaglia

Man’s Search for MeaningViktor E. Frankl

The Dance of AngerHarriet Lerner

Owning Your Own ShadowRobert A Johnson

I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression —  Terry Real

Radical AcceptanceTara Brach

The Places that Scare YouPema Chodron

Soul On Fire: A Guide to the Journey Beyond Anxiety —  S.C. Papenfus

Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart: A Buddhist Perspective on WholenessMark Epstein

When Food Is LoveGeneen Roth

Boundaries of the SoulJune Singer




The Eden Project  — James Hollis

What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal — John Gottman

The New Rules of Marriage — Terry Real

How Can I Get Through To You? — Terry Real

The Relationship Cure, John Gottman

Hold Me Tight — Sue Johnson

Love Sense — Sue Johnson

After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship  — Dan Wile

Passionate Marriage — David Schnarch

Resurrecting Sex — David Schnarch

Simple Loving — Janet Luhrs

And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives , — John and Julie Gottman

Reclaiming Eros, Suzanne Blackwood — Margaret Wade

Getting The Love You Want — Harville Hendrix

Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity — Shirley Glass

We —Robert A Johnson

Sacred Sexuality —  Michael Mirdad

Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart — John Welwood

Why Talking Is Not Enough —  Susan Page



From Age-ing to Sage-ing: A Profound New Vision of Growing Older —  Zalman Schachter-Shalomi and Ronald S. Miller

Aging: The Fulfillment of LifeHenri Nouwen

When Things Fall Apart: Heart  Advice for Difficult TimesPema Chodron

The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in MidlifeJames Hollis

Close to the Bone: Life Threatening Illness and the Search for MeaningJean Shinoda Bolen

On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of LossElisabeth Kubler Ross

A Grief Observed — C.S. Lewis

Living Your Unlived Life: Coping With Unrealized Dreams and Fulfilling Your Purpose in the Second Half of LifeRobert A. Johnson and Jerry M. Ruhl

Still Here: Embracing Age and Change — Ram Daas

I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It WasBarbara Sher

The Art of PossibilityRosamund and Benjamin Zander

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building A New LifeAbigail Trafford

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen Covey

Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death Irwin Yalom




The Courage to Heal - A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual AbuseLaura Davis and Ellen Bass

Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a ChildLaura Davis

Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child AbuseMike Lew

Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming ExperiencesPeter Levine

Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They HealBelleruth Naparstek



How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will TalkAdele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible ChildrenRoss W. Greene

The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals To Strengthen Family TiesWilliam Doherty

The Blessings of A Skinned KneeWendy Mogel

I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids: Reinventing Modern MotherhoodTrisha Ashworth and Amy Nob

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent GirlsMary Pipher

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of BoysDan Kindlon and Michael Thompson

The Shelter of Each Other: Rebuilding Our FamliiesMary Pipher

Another Country: Navigating the Emotional Terrain of Our EldersMary Pipher

Parenting From the Inside Out: How A Deeper Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who ThriveDaniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell

10 Conversations You Need to Have with Your ChildrenShmuley Boteach




A Creative CompanionSARK

A Big New Free Happy Unusual LifeNina Wise

If You Want to WriteBrenda Ueland

Fools GoldSusanWooldridge

The Art SpiritRobert Henri

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Creative BattlesSteven Pressfield

The Creative LicenseDanny Gregory

The Artist’s WayJulia Cameron

Letters to a Young PoetRainer Maria Rilke

Bird By BirdAnne Lamott

Life, Paint, & Passion: Reclaiming the Magic of Spontaneous ExpressionMichele Cassou and Stewart Cubley

Writing Down the Bones / Wild MindNatalie Goldberg

This Time I DanceTama Kieves

The Guerilla Art Kit: Everything You Need To Put Your Message Out in the WorldKeri Smith



The Winged Energy of Delight: Poems from Europe, Asia, and the Americasedited by Robert Bly

The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heartedited by Robert Bly

Risking Everythingedited by Roger Housden

Dancing with Joy: 100 Poemsedited by Robert Bly

Even in Quiet PlacesWilliam Stafford

The GiftHafiz

Selected PoemsMary Oliver

The ProphetKahlil Gibran

Full Woman, Fleshly Apple, Hot MoonPablo Neruda



Memories, Dreams, ReflectionsC.G. Jung

C.G. Jung: Wounder Healer of the Soul: An Illustrated BiographyClaire Dunne

An Interrupted Life: The Diaries of Etty Hillesum 1941-43Etty Hillesum

The Bread of AngelsStephanie Saldana

Midnight Musings of a Family TherapistCarl Whitaker

The Year of Magical ThinkingJoan Didion

Eat Pray Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India, and IndonesiaElizabeth Gilbert

Operating Instructions: A Journal of my Son's First YearAnne Lamott

Expecting Adam: A True Story of Birth, Rebirth, and Everyday MagicMartha Beck

NightElie Wiesel

The Golden WorldRobert A Johnson (CD only)

Life? or theatre?Charlotte Solomon